Beverley Benskin

About the Author Beverley Benskin


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Thank-You!

Reflect upon your present blessings, of which every man has many, not on your past misfortunes, of which all men have some. [Charles Dickens] It’s US Thanksgiving week, so I wanted to talk about gratitude. Gratitude is an everyday practice it’s not just something centered around a particular holiday. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today and creates a vision for tomorrow. Remember: Riches don’t come from your abundance of worldly goods, but from a contented mind. Acknowledging your blessings is key to victorious living. We have so much to be grateful for and when we don’t …

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Goals? But It’s Only November

You’re probably wondering why I’m talking about goals in November. We are all a work in progress, and it’s never too early to begin changing the things in your life that aren’t working for you. If you don’t want the next year to be the same as this year, you’re going to have to do something different. There are so many ways that you can make subtle changes in your life but it starts with a decision and a plan. Don’t wait until January 1st to think about what you would like your next year to look like; you have …

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Perfectly Happy

Are you waiting for the perfect time to be happy? Don’t wait for everything to be perfect to start enjoying your life. Sometimes we choose to postpone our happiness until certain things happen in our lives. We’re not present in the now because we’re focusing on the belief that we will be happy when… (You fill in the blank.) The problem with this strategy is that you miss out on so many blessings along the way. Maya Angelou once said, “Be present in all things and thankful for all things.” It’s important to enjoy all of the blessings surrounding you …

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Stormy Weather

Sometimes life can be full of frustrations, losses, heartbreaks, disappointments, and challenges. We all go through stormy seasons in life and we wait expectantly for the sun to begin shining again. We know that rain helps things to grow; it nurtures and replenishes dry places. We need water to live. But sometimes it feels like when it rains it pours. It feels like everything is going wrong in our lives. It may feel scary and hopeless, like you’re drowning. Know that… Better days are ahead, but in the meantime we have to learn to dance in the rain, or at …

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An Exercise In Self-Reflection

How many times has someone asked you how you’re doing and your response was I’m okay? But were you really doing okay? Were you telling them the truth? Were you telling yourself the truth? It is important to be honest with others in an appropriate manner and setting; but it’s just as important if not more important to be honest with yourself. Self-reflection is looking into the mirror of your soul. It’s acknowledging your truth and then finding a way to work towards any necessary change. Lamentations 3:40 states: let us examine our ways. Owning your truth is imperative to …

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You’ve Got This!

You really are stronger than you think… You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have. Mental and spiritual strength is just as important as physical strength. Remember: You’re stronger and have more courage than you think. I know that things may seem hard right now, the struggle can be overwhelming at times, but I want you to dig deep and find the strength that you have within. Maya Angelou once said: “You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.” …

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Grief

Be comforted. It’s been said that grief is the price that we pay for love… While I was home recently in Montreal I had the opportunity to speak to several people who had experienced a significant loss, so I wanted to take a moment to talk more about grief. As you know I’ve been Neonatal ICU nurse and a Licensed Grief Counselor/Coach for several years. I’ve heard so many heart wrenching personal stories relating to grief and loss and I’ve had the honor of working with many families who have lost a newborn baby in the ICU. I’m passionate about …

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“How soon ‘not now’ becomes never.” Martin Luther King Jr.

Wait! Wait! Are you that person who keeps putting things off? Are you a procrastinator? Procrastination is putting off something for tomorrow that you can do today. It’s postponing or delaying something that needs to get done. We’ve all been guilty of procrastination at one time or another. You have good intentions but you never seem to get around to completing the task. You’ve heard the saying, “procrastination is the thief of time?” Well, it’s true, the more you procrastinate the more time you waste. Procrastination can be a major cause of stress and can increase your anxiety because in …

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The Choices We Make

Life is a matter of choices, and every choice you make makes you. John Maxwell We are the end result of the choices that we’ve made. We are faced with making choices every day; sometimes we go through the day making spontaneous choices and other times intentional and purposeful choices, but whatever choices we’ve made… we’ve made them, no one else. Remember… You are free to choose your actions, but you are not free to choose the consequences. It’s important to always consider the consequences of your choices. Think about it… If I choose to __________, the (positive or negative) …

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Life’s Challenges

You can rise above your circumstance. Feed your faith not your fears… Let’s be honest… Sometimes life is just hard. I heard someone once say that the struggle you’re in today is developing the strength you need for tomorrow, so we can’t give up hope. We all go through stuff in life… and we sometimes wonder why we have to go through the things that we do and you might even question: Is God really with me? Charles Stanley wrote: Often times God demonstrates His faithfulness in adversity by providing for us what we need to survive. He does not …

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